As I prepare to make a huge change in my life in the distant future, I am trying very hard to be proactive and as prepared as possible. This is because historically, whenever a big change is impending in my life, I tend to become immobilized with the awesome responsibility of the task ahead. In this case I want to spread it out so I am not bombarded with the task and overwhelmed with what needs to be done.
Of course laying out a time line is the first step. But even in doing that there are some attitudinal tips that might help when you are facing a huge, impending life change.
- First of all, seek God’s direction in your life. Take it to Him, in prayer. We all have wants and desires and plans for our lives, but if He is indeed the Lord of your life, realize He will direct your path and will take you where He wants you to go. This is because He always gives us what is best. My job is to seek His Will and pay attention. How many times have I ran ahead of Him and then asked for help after the fact?
- Take things “one day at a time”. I know what I want to do and I am getting a picture of what I have to do. But if I allow the task to become unnecessarily bigger than what it is, I will get immobilized and shut down. I know myself quite well in this area. So my initial step is to lay out the task ahead in increments. I have to ask myself, “Where do I want to be with this in 6 months, 3 months, 1 month, etc….What am I doing each day to work towards that goal?”
- Realize you don’t have to do things alone. While I live “alone” as I have been since my sons moved out many years ago, I am not alone in this move. I have my kids in Atlanta who are there, every step. I have my best friend, my sister and the best brother-in-law in the world who always gives me wisdom and support. I have friends here to call on and I have some wonderful friends in Atlanta who I know I can call on, if for nothing else, advice and encouragement. Sometimes, you just need to hear encouraging words to motivate you or to redirect you, if you are not seeing a full picture.
- Face your fears. I have heard it said that after the death of a loved one, moving is the next greatest fear. I have lived in my house for about 15 years and it is home. I have molded it, shaped it and gotten extremely comfortable. Leaving it, even as I type this, causes a catch in my heart. But, my house is not my life. My home is where ever my heart is, and right now my heart is in Atlanta with my kids. Those of you who know me, know that I absolutely hate flying. But the desire to get to my destination overrides that fear and allows me to experience the joy in arriving. Facing fears is like that. You have to ask yourself if the joy you will feel in reaching your goal will surpass the fear in getting there. I can undeniably say, yes! While I will miss my friends here, I will see them again, whether it be in coming back to visit or them visiting me. It will move us all to new levels of experience.
- Just do it! Ask yourself, “If not now, when?” How many times in life do we say, “One of these days….”? Then you look around and realize, time has moved on, you have gotten complacent and comfortable and then understand, it will most likely never happen. But you keep telling yourself that same mantra. Sometimes you just have to “do it”. Life does not always keep giving us opportunities. Doors open and doors close. If you see doors opening and possibilities unfolding before you, just do it. Take advantage of those opportunities. Make life happen!
While I know some of these suggestions might be a bit cerebral, I believe they are all doable. I am looking forward to so many changes for 2017. I am keeping things positive and hopeful. And I am preparing for my new grandchild by getting my life ready to be there for his/her arrival.